Saturday, September 29, 2012

Dane Ortland on The Psychology of Resentment

I really appreciated this article by Dane Ortland. It begins this way:
You need not experience extraordinary suffering or be wronged in an unusually grievous way to feel the strong, seemingly unstoppable pull toward resentment. All you need to do is live a little in this fallen world. Before long you're given a good solid reason to resent someone. Often someone quite close to you. Family member, spouse, parent, long-time friend, etc. It feels impossible to love that person.
What causes such bitterness? Why are our hearts so immovably deadened toward that person? 
Well, they wronged you, so you resent them. They hurt you. They did what they should never have done. Or didn’t do what they should have done. And you bear the wounds. 
Yes—but what’s the reason beneath the reason? 
Read the whole thing here.

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